Confessions of a Delayed Blogger

Hi there, all of my readers!

I’m sorry I haven’t been writing here for very long. There’s been very much going on, and I’ve often been very busy, and I’ve also often struggled with various things in my everyday life, like planning and organising, and this has affected my life, and also made it harder for me to come around to focus on my blog. There’s many factors that have played a part in delaying me and distracting me from working more on my blog, and then in the middle of it all I’ve kept on thinking about my blog now and then, putting off working on it now and then and probably often also forgetting about it with there being so much on my mind, and I’ve often had more than enough to deal with in my every day life, than to also be deeply thinking of what to write here and how to do things on my blog. I’ve basically often had a quite disorganised life, and I’ve felt that my everyday life often has been very messy and chaotic, and I’ve often felt very stressed.

Gradually my situation has started to improve the last weeks, and I now today felt like getting back into my blog writing, and finally I’m here.

My life hasn’t been perfect, and it has been very much filled up with challenges and struggles, and I have often been unhappy with how things have been. Then when I ideally would’ve liked to have been good at setting aside time for blogging and writing lots about my life, and the months have gone, and I’ve gotten more and more delayed in relation to all my ideas about what to write about, then it hasn’t made my blogging situation easier, as I would’ve liked to have told you many things from my last months in my life, and now I feel there’s heaps of things to write about, and that I need to catch up in relation to my ideas if I’m going to get to tell you a lot about how my life has been lately or at least give you some summaries from the time since I last wrote here, but I’m just not sure what to do now, as there’s so much to catch up on, but what I definetely will do is to send off this text soon and in this way just jump into my blogging again, and then hopefully I’ll soon write something more here.

I don’t want to pretend that I’ve got everything under control all the time. I don’t want to pretend that my life is perfect. I don’t want to pretend that I’ve got only good excuses for not writing here for many months. Actually, the situation has been far from me having everything under control all the time. I often struggle with keeping in control or on top of things in my everyday life, and this is one of the main things that has happened in this long period where there’s just been “silence” – me not writing – on my blog. Furthermore, my life has absolutely not been perfect, but filled with lots of challenges, difficulties, different types of pains, chaos, mess, disorganisation and not enough discipline – in addition to a lot of good things too, like nice moments, people praying for me and showing care, and enjoyable experiences, like eating a delicious meal.

It HAS been difficult for me to get blogging done, with how my life has been filled up with lots of important things to do and different challenges, a lack of organisation and other things that has affected my life situation, like mentioned before, but I believe I could’ve chosen to sit down and write here a long time ago, as I’ve managed to do a lot of letter writing lately, so I’ve showed myself I can set aside time for writing in that way. Basically, I haven’t been good enough at planning and at setting aside time for blogging lately, and I apologize for not writing regularly, at least once a month, lately. I don’t think it’s good for those readers who really want to read here and see what’s going on in my life. At the same time it’s not good for me to keep away for this long from my blog, for various reasons, for instance because I WANT to be active on my blog and develop my blog. I want this blog to bless people, and for it to happen more and more, I have to keep on writing, more and more.

That being said I have often felt that it’s been too much for me to deal with my blog the last months, and I’m asking you to please understand that side of things too, as sometimes life is so filled up with things to deal with that one can feel that certain things have to wait. Now I DO want to get back into my blogging again properly, though, and I really want to do some things to help myself, because I really want to suceed with this blog.

I think it’s very soon time for me to have a thorough planning session where I make some decicions for my blog and plan when I’m going to set aside time for working on my blog, writing texts for it and in other ways improving it.

I hope there are some readers out there who’s been reading my blog now and then, and who still wants to keep on reading here, and if you’re reading this, please will you send me some lines of comments to this blog text to let me know you are “hanging in there” still?

Take care, and have a very nice Tuesday onwards, if you read this this Tuesday I’ve written it, and if not have a very nice day whatever day it is for you! :)

Best wishes,

Ruth Kristin Burton

 

Two years of living in the UK

Hi, everyone.

 

 

I’m sorry I haven’t been in touch for a bit long. I’ve been very busy. Anyway yesterday it was two years since I moved to the UK to live there permanently. It hasn’t always been easy to live in the UK for me as a Norwegian, and I have often missed Norway and family and friends there, but all in all I’ve gradually gotten more and more settled in the UK and am now much more at ease in the UK than in the start.

Today I have yet again gone to Norway for a little holiday and this time I have my husband with me to Norway for the first time since we got married, so this visit is extra special and nice for me.

We are visiting my parents in my birth city Stavanger this weekend, and being in the city where my life on earth started is very nice. However it is even better to think about that God saw me before I was born and that he had planned my existence. He had a very good plan for me and saw me as I was being formed in my mothers womb, and he loves me with an eternal love. The same goes also for you.

You are loved by God with a never ending love. He planned your existence and saw your unformed body before you were born. He has a very good plan for you and showed his love for you by letting his son Jesus die for you.

 

Enjoy your weekend, all of you! I’ll enjoy mine in Norway.

 

And remember: God loves you.

Ruth Kristin

The Blessings of a Morning Walk

Good morning! :)

Not long ago I came back home from another morning walk. I am not used to going on a morning walk and have only tried it a few times spread out here and there before, but last week was different. You see, for the first time in my life I went for a morning walk several days in a row last week, and some of the walks even started at nine, which was a time I had decided upon was going to be the starting time of my morning walk. My husband and I had made a very good arrangement for the week on Sunday evening the 8th of January, and one of the most important parts of the arrangement was that I was going to have a daily morning walk. With a very good deal with my husband, including a reward I would get if I kept to our deal, I was inspired and motivated for making sure I had my daily morning walk.

My first morning walk in the new year was Monday last week. I walked to a nature area nearby and spent some time there, and I really enjoyed my walk time. The next morning I had an appointment at ten, so then I rearranged my plans and had my morning walk as I walked to the appointment. Then on Wednesday and Thursday last week I started walking at nine again, and I had nice walks in the same nature area I had been walking in the first day I’d had my morning walk last week. Finally, on Friday, I had a doctor’s appointment at 8.30, so I had my morning walk on my way to the appointment, and I had to start the walk extra early, namely some minutes after eight. This morning I had been very excited by seeing that it was snowing around seven o clock in the morning, and I enjoyed walking outside in snow that morning. Even though there wasn’t very much snow, I still enjoyed it. I like to have snow outside in the winter time, and it reminds me of Norway, my home country, so that’s nice, and it makes me feel happy.

In the weekend I didn’t go for any morning walk, and in the start of this week, I had a set back and got up too late for my nine o clock morning walk, but today I had a fresh start and had my morning walk. I wasn’t ready exactly at nine o clock today, but I was ready some minutes afterwards and still had a walk, and it was very nice to be back on track again with having my morning walk.

So what are the blessings of a morning walk? Here are some I’ve found:

  • It gives you a good start to your day.
  • It gives you a little exersice.
  • It gives you fresh air.
  • It gives you sunshine if the sun is shining.
  • It lets you see variations in the weather and in nature.
  • It can make you feel good about yourself and ready for your day.

Just go for it! :)

 

Ruth Kristin

Smile at Your husband! :)

Good morning, everyone!

Not long ago I came back home after another morning walk, a walk I’ve had every morning since Monday this week. I want to tell you more about my morning walks another time. Anyway, it was nice to come home and meet my husband that was in a good mood, and a little after I’d met him and thought of his happy mood and greeting of me when I came back, and then I smiled and said some things to my husband, and he smiled back at me, and he expressed to me how much he liked me smiling at him, and basically we both smiled a lot at each other, and by being happy and smiling I believe we both cheered each other.

So today I want to encourage you: Smile at your husband! He probably finds it very attractive and uplifting. :)

 

Ruth Kristin

How to Sucess-proof your Day with Positive Pressure

Hi again, readers! Good morning! :)

Here I am, blogging again, and today I’ve got something very helpful and positive for you.

The other day I told you about the power of positive pressure. To recap a little bit I explained about how you by putting a positive pressure upon yourself can experience that there’s a lot of power in such a pressure and that you for instance can get a lot of things done by using it. Today I’ll tell you about how you can success-proof your day by using this power of positive pressure. Let’s dive right into it:

  1. Decide on one or more positive outcomes you want to achieve during a day or as a result of how you’ve lived your life one day. The outcomes you want to achieve during a day could be the completion of several neccessary things. One example is to decide you want to have done your 3 most important things to do that day before eating dinner. You could also decide that you will give yourself a reward for your accomplishments at the end of the day, or you could arrange with someone else, like your spouse or a close friend, that they will reward you in some kind of way, like with a gift or a special time together with them. An example of achieving a positive outcome as a result of how you’ve lived your life one day, is if you manage to follow a set structure for the day and be in bed by a decent time in the evening, because you know it will make you feel good when you’re in bed and that you’ll feel content and rested the next day.
  2. Decide on a positive plan for the day, a plan that can inspire and put pressure upon you to get the things you need done without making you feel that your plan is too strict or demanding for you. For some people this plan could tell them to do one main task that day and then make dinner and relax in the evening. For others the plan could be much more demanding, because they know they are capable of achieving more without feeling stressed, so they can for instance try to achieve 5 targets for the day, and for housewives and others staying at home during the day, these 5 targets could be a) put on two laundries during the day and hang them up later on, b) tidy and clean the living room, c) write an important email, d) cook dinner for your spouse and/or family, and e) wash up, tidy and clean in the kitchen so that the kitchen looks good for the next morning. No matter what, the plan you make should be giving you a little pressure and be inspiring, but it shouldn’t be making you feel that you can’t manage to follow the plan. Make a plan that seems positive to you.
  3. Be strict and stick to the plan. Try to always be strict with yourself and stick to the plan you have made for your day. Let it be your goal to follow your plan, and don’t let other people’s wishes or demands on you drag you into unneccessary delays.
  4. Let the positive plan challenge and inspire you to work hard and if at times neccessary quickly too. By focusing on your outcomes you will find it easier to do your work, your chores or whatever it is you have decided to accomplish. Even if some of the tasks may be uninteresting or not very exciting for you, you can make them fun or at least more endurable by focusing on the fact that they are leading you towards your goal.
  5. When you are noticing the power of the positive pressure upon you, enjoy it and let it put you into a good flow.
  6. When you have achieved your positive outcomes, enjoy your success and be thankful.
  7. Rejoice in your victory, and don’t be afraid of celebrating your success and passing on your newly learned knowledge to others! :)

That’s it. I hope you liked my little recipe for success-proofing your day with the power of positive pressure.

And by the way, sometimes we don’t always manage to stick hundred percent to our plans or get hindrances that makes it necessary or a good idea to make some changes to the plan, and then it’s a good idea to be flexible with your plan, and to not beat yourself up if you don’t get everything done exactly as planned. Sometimes we can still be successful even if we make some little changes to our plans as we go along. Focus most on the main parts of your positive plan or the most important target for your day, and even you have a little delay or setback now and then, don’t worry, and don’t give up, but just keep on going. If you are more successful the day you’re trying out your new plan than the day before, then you’ve made progress, and you’re moving forward, and that’s the main thing. As Flylady says “Progress, not perfection”. We don’t need perfection, but we need progress, and now I’ve showed you one way for you to achieve that.

Take care everyone, and have a very nice and positive day! :)

 

Ruth Kristin

 

The Power of Positive Pressure

When you have a lot to do and a lot to think about, life can feel difficult, stressful and overwhelming, at least if the amount of things you have to deal with is so many that you feel you can’t cope or can’t get it all done within the time frame you think or believe is ideal. This has been my experience again and again, and I’ve noticed time and again how thinking a lot about how much I’ve got to do or thinking about a lot of those things within a few seconds, can make me feel really overwhelmed, and feeling overwhelmed doesn’t make me feel very motivated, and I guess that’s true for you too. We all like to feel that we have motivation for what we need to do, and we all want to feel that we are able to do what’s ahead of us and tackle the challenges that we are facing in our lives.

At this point, when you need to do something, and you need motivation to do it, then a positive pressure upon you that inspires you, can really spur you on and help you to accomplish things. It can even help you to get things done in a quicker way than you usually do things. This is what I want to call: the power of positive pressure. Let me tell you what I mean when I say this.

As the opposite of feeling you have to do something you don’t really want to do or don’t feel is any fun to do, you can have a positive pressure upon you where you feel like you want to achieve something, either because doing it feels fun or interesting, or because you know that by doing it you will achieve a positive outcome that motivates you, or it could be that it’s a bit of both going on – you both like doing what you are going to do and you also know that it will give a positive result, a result that you will like.

Let me give you some examples. If you feel like you’re tired in the morning and that you don’t really want to get up, or you feel like you don’t want to or find it easy to be quick to get ready for the day, and maybe it’s partly because you don’t have any clear plan for your day and don’t feel motivated for getting started on your day, then getting out of bed can feel difficult, and when you’re out of bed having a good start to the day or being quick in getting ready, can be hard. If you for instance don’t have a positive plan for the day where you know what you are going to do and what time you need to be ready for in the morning, then you can easily feel very little or no motivation for getting ready quickly, and you  might have a slow start to your day. On the other hand, if you had a good and positive plan for the day before going to bed the previous day, and if you knew that you were going to do something you would enjoy doing or something that would give you a positive outcome, or maybe many positive outcomes, then you would have a postive pressure upon you for getting ready in the morning and you would feel motivated for gettiing up, for having a good start and for getting ready in time for your first appointment with yourself or others that day.

Another example is, that if you knew that if you would earn some money by doing some household chores for a family member that has asked you for doing some chores for him or her, then you would probably feel motivated for doing the chores you’ve been asked to do.

Basically, I’m trying to tell you that there is a lot of power in a positive pressure. A positive pressure can inspire you, motivate you, excite you and get you into a good and active flow, and it can make you do things much faster than you normally do, and it can lead to great achievement.

I’ll quickly tell you a little bit about how the power of positive pressure has helped me this morning: I had a positive plan that partly consisted of having to get ready for nine o clock today, because then I was going to go on a morning walk, and that positive plan inspired me to quickly get ready and do a lot of positive things in the morning, and in the end I managed to go out for my morning walk at nine. There’s great power in a positive pressure.

 

Ruth Kristin

A Couple for Four Years :)

Today it’s four years since my dear prince Jonathan and I became a couple. We had by then gradually gotten to know each other for a while, and we had become closer and closer to each other in our friendship. Furthermore we had since first of January in 2013 started acting as a couple. Then on the 4th of January that same year we started defining ourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend, and now we’ve been a couple for four years.

Here’s a little tribute in photos to Jonathan and my relationship to him, my sweet, handsome, lovely, kind, caring, creative, talented, hardworking, loving, forgiving, and one of a kind prince, darling and husband.

Happy Anniversary, Jonathan, my love! :)

 

Ruth Kristin

Happy New Year! :D – 2017

 

 

Happy New Year, everyone! 😀 Yuhoo! We’ve got a new year now. It’s a fresh start. It’s a new beginning.

I wish you all a very happy and a blessed new year! :)

I will let you hear more from me as we gradually get more and more into the new year.

This is just a little greeting for now. I hope you’ve all had a very nice Christmas holiday and a happy New Year’s weekend.

Happy New Year! :)

 

Ruth Kristin

Catching Up

Hi, folks!

I’m sorry, but again I’ve had a period where I’ve often been very busy and where I haven’t come around to blogging on my blog. I could say it like this: I’ve gotten delayed and found it hard to sit down and do some blogging in the business of my life and in a situation where I’ve often had very much to deal with. However, I know that I could’ve chosen to sit down and blog several times, so it’s not that it’s not been possible for me, but unfortunately I’ve kept on putting it off and at the same time often been very busy and had very much to do and deal with, and then blogging has become one of those things that it hasn’t been so easy to do, and I guess that it hasn’t been so tempting to sit down and do it either, often, because in a busy life period one often wants to relax and feel no pressure, and with my blog there has been some kind of pressure for me in a way, because I’ve had a lot of ideas and wishes for what to write here.

The thing is, though, now that I think about it, I don’t have to put any pressure upon myself about writing things, and I can just write down my ideas for what to write about, and whenever I feel I want to and have time available for it, I can spend time on writing about those things I’ve got on my list of blog ideas. I also want to mention that this evening I really felt like blogging, and after sitting down to do it, in a room of my own, being on a Christmas holiday at my father-in-law’s place, I have felt that it’s quite relaxing and rather nice to be sitting and doing some blogging, and it’s actually a pleasant way for me to be getting some ME-time, if you know what I mean.

When it comes to my blog, I’ve often had many ideas for what to write about here during the last months, and unfortunately I have – as mentioned – found it hard to come around to doing blogging lately, and also in general many times this year. With that I’ve sometimes felt a bit sad about not having written about certain occasions or episodes that I wanted to write about, and like with many other things I’ve often felt as if I was “behind schedule”. I’ve often felt delayed, and I’ve felt like I’ve gotten a bigger and bigger pile of blogging ideas to deal with as time has gone. However, my blog is for now only a hobby blog, and no one has told me to put out a certain amount of posts here or something like that, and it’s just I, myself, that in a way has put some pressure on myself by having lots of blogging ideas that I’ve wanted to do something about, around a certain time, often. In any case, I can still write about a lot of those things I’ve wanted to write about, even if my blog texts are “delayed” in a way. Futhermore, when it comes to episodes in my life I’ve wanted to write about, it’s still possible to write about them long after they have happened. Whenever things from the past are written about, they can always be put out onto my blog, because stories from our lives can be told as long as the one who experienced the story is still alive.

One of the things I now believe I should do in the nearest future, is 1) to make a long list of all my blogging ideas, 2) plan for when I’m going to do blogging, but also 3) be open for spontaneous blogging sessions like I’ve had many times before and like I in a way have tonight, and 4) first of all just have fun and enjoy my blogging, because it is one of my many hobbies, and one that I really like doing. I basically think I should put less pressure on myself when it comes to my blogging, and I should think that in the future I can always catch up on writing on my blog and fulfilling the writing projects here that I’ve thought of. There’s always a chance in the future to write more, as long as I put aside time for it, and even five minutes of writing can make a difference on my blog.

When it comes to catching up it’s something that I sometimes have felt as a difficult topic, because for me it has often been related to me feeling that I’m delayed or “behind schedule” on different tasks or projects, and I’ve had things to do piling up for me again and again. Unfortunately I often struggle with planning and organization of my time, and I easily get delayed, and I often struggel with getting started on things and getting things done too. Things can vary and are not always very challenging for me on these mentioned areas, but I often struggle with getting a lot of things that I ideally want to get done, done, especially when my life feels very busy and there’s much for me to think about or deal with. This can for instance often happen when it comes to preparing birthday gifts and Christmas gifts. Sometimes I’m not planning ahead enough and/or starting soon enough with my preparations for a birthday, and then I can for instance get delayed with buying a birthday gift to someone in my family, especially if I’e got a lot to think about, and I can easily forget it around that time I ideally should be doing it, and also if I’m delayed with getting it done, I can easily forget about it later on in between. Often I think about things that I haven’t gotten around to do in between, and they can sometimes feel as if they are all hanging over me as a burden or pressure of things to do.

Sometimes I get delays and things I feel I need to catch up on on many areas of my life at the same time, and sometims all these delays and undone tasks just adds up to a bigger and bigger pile, in my head in a way, and then if I think about lots of them at the same time, which I often have done the last years, I can feel very overwhelmed and like it’s all too much for me. I’ve often felt like that during this year and during the last 2-3 years. Basically, it’s something that easily happens with me, because I often struggle with doing all those things I ideally want to do, for different reasons, but it’s mainly because I’ve got Asperger’s syndrome, and in a way I just can’t have too much pressure on me or too much to try to do, because that’s not good for me and can often make me feel very stressed or overwhelmed. Then at the same time I want to catch up on things, like birthday gifts, and I’ve done that many times this year by sometimes buying and giving out delayed birthday gifts and other gifts that was meant for a very long time ago, sometimes even for special occasions that was over a year ago. I did that recently for instance, and by doing that I was catching up on things to do. Now I’m almost finished catching up on giving out those gifts that I want to give out for people around me, so that feels good.

However, the thing is, all this catching up on things, is maybe not always good for me, especially not if I put pressure on myself to do certain things in the first place, like giving out birthday gifts. With putting pressure on myself to do certain things, I might make my life harder for myself than necessary, and I’m thinking that perhaps I should try getting better at accepting that I’m often finding that doing a lot in a short amount of time and being very busy is often very difficult and sometimes not very healthy for me, and that I don’t always manage to do as many things as I ideally want to do within a certain amount of time, and that I don’t have to try to do as much as many others do. I’m me, and I’m ok as me, and I can be me. I often have high expectations of myself, lots of things I want to achieve, and many ideas about things to do, but in real life I often struggle with getting it all out into life, achieving everything I want to, and I have sometimes felt upset, low, sad or dissapointed because of these things. It’s not always easy for me to handle that I’m often struggling with getting things done and that I easily get delayed in my process of getting things done, and I have many times experienced to feel low and perhaps I can say a bit depressed because of it. It can be very upsetting and sad for me to think about all the things I haven’t managed to get done and to know that I’m very far behind in relation to all the things I’ve got to do, but I believe that I need to accept my own limitations and remind myself of them and try to not expect or demand too much of myself, and I need to try to make my life easier for myself.

It’s ok for me to try to do some catching up sometimes, and I think that sometimes it is necessary, but certain things can be cut out, and sometimes I think I just need to accept that some things I just didn’t come around to doing, and then just let it be and stop thinking that I should try to get it done. Instead of thinking a lot about things I want to be cathing up on, as I think I have done sometimes, I should focus mainly on the here and now and on the future. I can try to become more organized and get better at doing things in a good time in the future, and at the same time I need to make sure I don’t put too much pressure on myself and accept that I can’t try to do too much in one go or in a short amount of time, because trying to do too much, easily leads to stress, and I can quickly become very stressed by having too much to do and think about. Catching up can be good, but I should find a balance in relation to catching up and sometimes accept that I didn’t get something done and then just leave it like that.

Now I’ve written for a long time, and it’s late, so I have to say good night. Sleep well, and good night, and have a happy Christmas holiday, all of you, my readers!

 

Ruth Kristin

 

Married for ONE year! :)

Hi,

Today my husband and I are having our first wedding anniversary. One year ago we married each other and entered a life long covenant with each other, and we had a lovely wedding day and celebrated with family members and friends.

Today it’s been very nice to surprise my dear husband Jonathan with different gifts and a nice card, and I was surprised by receiving gifts from him too, including a beautiful orchid, and I also got a homemade card, something he’s very good at making.

Jonathan is the best man for me. I was very excited and happy about marrying him last year, and I’m very glad that I can celebrate this special wedding anniversary with him today. We’ve enjoyed many good moments today, like when we went for a walk in the sun earlier on, and the day isn’t over, so I’ll go and spend the rest of this day with my husband now after finishing this. I can always write more about the anniversary another time. Now I need to seize the opportunity to spend some more time with my man, my lovely husband, my handsome prince Jonathan.

Thank you God for my dear Jonathan! :)

Ruth Kristin